It is so easy, especially for women, to get caught up in what we SHOULD do or to let ourselves get lost in all of the responsibilities of life.
It is so important that you don’t let yourself get stuck in that trap though. Don’t let yourself get so caught up in your long to do list and all of the demands of your family that you miss out on doing what will truly make you happy.
I have been doing a lot of soul searching for the last year and half since my Mom passed away. One of the things that I have realized is that I was so concerned about being successful that I filled up my life with too many things to do. I filled up my life with so many things to do, that I never seemed to get anything accomplished.
I spent pretty much every day feeling stress and anxiety because I had a long list of goals and things to do that always grew faster than I could get things done. And while I was “working” so hard to get things done I was missing out on so many magical moments with my kids. When I did accomplish something I couldn’t really enjoy it, because there were still so many things that I still needed to get done and there never seemed to be enough time.
Losing my Mom has really forced me to take a closer look at how I spend my time, and what I consider to be important. I have realized that it is alright for me to slow down and stop pushing so hard towards my goals. Sometimes it is more important to spend that quality time playing on the floor with Lincoln and Carter than it is for me to redesign my blog, or to start working on rebuilding my subscriber list, or to call all of the people on my list again, or get back into networking on the Social Media sites….
It’s amazing how easy it is for my brain to start off on that list of things it thinks I SHOULD be doing.
What really amazes me though is that in the last year I have made more money than I ever have before, and I have done less work. I have put more focus on doing what makes me happy (like spending time with my family) and I have pretty much put all of my business plans on hold. How letting go of my to do list and just living has been more profitable than working myself to near exhaustion.
I have had some coaches tell me in the past that I needed more balance and more me time, but my brain just couldn’t comprehend how that was going to help. Turns out they were right.
Hopefully it won’t take such a traumatic experience for you to learn this lesson. If there is anything that I would impress upon you it would be to make sure that the things that you spend your time doing make you feel good! Don’t spend your days feeling stress and anxiety! Working less can lead to more money if you learn to focus on doing what makes you happy.
I will talk more about this soon because I have decided to try to keep my blog post shorter.